I’m finally admitting, after years of dithering about it here and elsewhere, that I’m bi-local. That is, I have two places I call home.
Two places where I keep my stuff (well-worn favorite walking shoes, decent corkscrew, poufy pillow, jar of good pens, sharp tweezers, bag of unexpired granola).
Two places where I have history. After 13 years of back and forth, about both places, now, I can say to my husband, “Remember that time we…” and “Why don’t we go back to…?” and he knows exactly what I’m talking about.
In both places, I’ve been known to advise outsiders (not too smugly, I hope) about what to do and see, how to get there, what to avoid. About both places, I can now offer “in” jokes and chummy complaints.
This marriage to my California guy seems to be hanging on, and it looks like our dual domicile life is going to last. And now that I’m retired, I am extending my absences from Flint, Michigan to about five months a year.
To be “of” two places can be perilous and confusing. Especially when one is a fairly glamorous place – the portside of Los Angeles, where a lot of people want to live -- and when the other place – beleaguered and stubbornly compelling Flint -- still wrestles with its nagging, if unfair, notoriety.
But that is part of the material that absorbs me and is reflected in this website, which I’m resuscitating after long neglect. As my life changes and enters a new phase, I’m attempting to capture once again my various obsessions and re-inventions.
I feel rich with experience and choice. I hope you will find pleasure here.
To read the whole essay about being “bi-local,” which appeared in the September, 2014 East Village Magazine, click here or go to Essays on the link above.
-- From My bilocal life, both perilous and pleasurable in Essays
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